A romance sequence is what the story of a movie usually is about, or it blooms along the sidelines of the main plot, or sometimes comes out of nowhere in the climax, or in other cases, there is no romance sequence at all. Regarding this, movies can fall into these four categories and while the depth of the relationship can’t be portrayed completely on screen – unless it’s a sitcom like Friends or Personal Taste – it can successfully be sketched to appear likable, rational, sensible and acceptable. Good examples of these are Pride and Prejudice (Elizabeth and Darcy), First Love (Shone and Nam), Me Before You (Will and Lou), the notable ones in Harry Potter (Harry and Ginny; Ron and Hermione; James and Lily; Snape and Lily; Cedric and Cho), and Twilight (Alice and Jasper). I’ve always loved these couples, because they just fit in right with each other. You don’t really find anything stupid or silly about them.
But stupid and silly romances sadly do exist in a lot of movies, that all you feel like doing is switching it off or groaning into your hands.
I watched this Tamil movie recently, Remo, in which the relationship between the lead couple was appalling. I’ve never been fond of Sivakarthikeyan – better off not mentioning why – but I decided to give this one a chance.
And regretted it.
It’s about this guy who falls in love with this girl (Keerthi Suresh) at first sight. One sign that this can’t go well. I used to believe love at first sight was possible back when I was a teenager but then I started reading a lot and my opinions changed. Sure, call it a spark or you take an instant liking but it’s nowhere close to the border of love.
This guy decides to pursue her but when he gets thwarted by her engagement, he decides to dress up as this female nurse to work in the same hospital she works as a doctor, makes friends with her, and then starts convincing her she should throw the arranged marriage away and opt for a love marriage, which is undoubtedly in favour of his situation. First wrong step was to deceive the girl like that to find out what she’s thinking. That is a total invasion of privacy, no matter how you look at it.
So is the movie sending out the message it’s completely cool and macho for a guy to take on a fake avatar to get a girl? Because in the end, she does fall hard for him, giving the affirmative.
And some viewers find that romantic, which is really shocking.
The guy reveals himself halfway through the story, sending her flowers and setting up a firework display for her birthday. What do you think comes next? He stalks her everywhere she goes, whistling at her to catch her attention, calling her in the middle of the night (creepy!), and asking, in what he assumes to be a charming way, ‘When are you gonna say yes to me?’
It’s as if he’s calling her for a daring challenge, like jumping off a cliff as a bet.
There are no scenes in which he gives her any reason to like him nor is there any scene to give him a reason to like her. What does he really know about her aside from her getting engaged and on the brink of marriage? How does he know she will make him happy? All he sees is this white skinned, pretty girl who he’d look good with. And she doesn’t seem to look for any reason either, and as she begins to dislike the disposition of her fiance instead, this guy is who she looks at.
The way you approach a girl and getting to know her has a certain gentlemanly way in which the protagonist of this movie fails to exhibit. And when guys watch this and feel inspired, it leads to them thinking what he did was right – because hey, he got the girl in the end! – and they begin imitating his style in real life. When the respective girls don’t find that enchanting and spurns them – unlike the girl in the movie – some of the guys get angry, which leads to them inflicting trauma in the girl’s life through ways I really don’t want to mention.
Everything is about cinema today. What you bring out through a movie is really very important as a result. Hoodwinking real life people dangerously like this is committing a felony. It spoils guys, it spoils girls. What’s depicted in movies like this isn’t love but lust. Pure, unadulterated lust.
The guy sees a pretty girl and begins stalking her wherever she goes. Him and his friends like insulting other girls to their faces by calling them ‘not worthy to look at’. It’s not funny, people, scenes like that are definitely not funny. If he can’t respect another woman, how will he respect the girl he’s after? And in this case, I can’t blame guys alone. Girls walking around in groups have the tendency to make fun of other guys, pertaining to physical appearances or the way they behave.
Lack of respect, lack of humanity.
You do not impertinently insult other people for the way they look or behave. Especially not to their faces or when you are aware they can hear you.
These attributes usually make up the ingredient to some appalling movies and what’s even horrifying is half of the audience enjoys them and takes them to their hearts. The movie industry is really getting polluted.